Rejection First Hand!
Ok I just had the biggest lesson of a life time. It has to do with perfectionism and being able to handle rejection.
So here is the thing. Sorry if I have not gotten back to some of your comments and thoughts lately I have been in the lovely Goldcoast having a great time with my bestfriend to celebrate her 22nd Birthday.
There are a whole bunch of stories there, which I will have to share with you another time.
Just before that I was working at the Health Expo as a promotions girls to help promote this website http://www.meetyourpersonaltrainer.com.au which will be launching in like 2 days!
SO as you know with any type of promotions you have to get out there engage with people, capture interest and close the sale.
In many respects it would be similar to a guy approaching a girl and attempting to get her interest.
Well here is what I experienced first hand! Man now I know exactly what it feels like to be a guy, and how hard approaching girls can be.
So this is what happened to me and how I overcame it.
Basically we were told our sales targets and we knew how many signups we needed and how many people's names we needed to get.
Now I'm still one of those people that needs to work on being able to handle the pressure. Coz right now I crumble like there is no 2moro.
Its pathetic. But hey you live and learn.
So because I knew that there were these sales targets and I felt like I needed to get something out of these people, the interactions and the responses that I was getting were pretty pathetic aye.
A whole bunch of people walked passed me and I gave this half assed approach. It was pathetic. So anyways one of the owners, then comes up to me and says this.
Him: "Jen, how you going?"
Me: *Nervous laugh* " Yeh not bad".
Him: "Whatcha doing Jen? ... Your looking like a Sales person right now."
Me: "Are you serious? I can't stand Sales people and I don't even like being sold to".
Him: "You just need to relax and be yourself. Jen you are the most outgoing person I know, just have a conversation with them, you are not selling them anything. All you are doing is raising awareness."
Me: "Just be myself, have a conversation. Ok I can do that".
Result.
In the next 30 minutes I signed up 2 people to their website.
So what changed?
Well if you can't tell from the conversation, I stopped coming from the mindset of wanting something from these people.
In a very big way, I was being needy. What is being needy? Wanting or expecting something from someone.
This comes down the basics of approaching women or approaching anyone in particular. If you go to get ... you get nothing in return.
But if you go to give, you get everything.
So instead of standing there looking and sounding like a sales girl, I just started to interact with people.
This is one of the best approaching techniques around.
I found what worked best for me, was using something in the environment and using that to strike up a conversation. So I would grab someone and point to their shirt, something that they were doing or holding. Whatever was around them and bring it back to them.
Because lets face it, people love to talk about themselves. So get them talking about themselves and then they are more willing to hear what you have to say.
Whether it be making a sale, or approaching a woman, the most important thing is that you need to develop the rapport.
If you don't have the rapport, you have nothing.
Remember that one.
So what else did I learn? Well this next part is a very important lesson. But you guys are going to have to tune in on Monday!!
But it has to do with how my best friend was able to kick my ass in laser squirmish, even though she has terrible aim and has never played before in her life. haha
Hope you enjoyed this post and feel free to leave your thoughts.
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The Moment of Surrender…
Finn signals silence with his finger across his lips as he slides his half naked body on top of mine.There's a room full of people on the other side of the wall and we're supposed to be sleeping, which makes everything more delicious and naughty.
He lifts my t-shirt so his bare skin is against mine and I can feel his cock, pressing insistently into the crotch of my already moist panties.
We kiss quietly, my fingers running through his long hair and then running down his back to slip into the sides of his underwear, tugging at them.
Knowing we should not be doing what we are about to do only adds to the excitement felt between us. He is biting my bottom lip and my nipples are so hard they hurt.
Reaching down, Finn, slides the crotch of my panties aside and slips into me. I gasp and try to keep quiet as he slowly grinds his hips against mine, his shaft coming into contact with my clit, moving the bead of my piercing methodically up and over the head.
My nails grab his biceps; his kisses turn more violent as our bodies heat up. Not daring to go faster, we dance together with common purpose and some restraint.
My ankles lock around his waist. I pull him in as hard as I can and arch my back. He takes my arms and pushes them above my head, pinning me down.
The mating dance, brutal and beautiful, a fight for control and release.
Hearts pounding, blood pumping, impulses firing.
Until the very moment of surrender.
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Life Gets in the Way!
I hate when that happens!I believe I speak for both of us when I say we're sorry we've been so scarce lately.
I am working on a huge writing project that is taking up most of my time. It's rewarding and exciting, though not in "that" way but is an amazing endeavor that will, as it comes to fruition, cascade into an even bigger project that (fingers crossed) will take on a life of its own.
That said, it does not leave a lot of time and energy for writing the saucier side of life.
And Finn has been on a job site for the past week, so we're barely getting any time alone.
Booooooo......
But I promise we'll be around very soon. We hope to get to hang out tomorrow night as I have to get back to brain storming with my two business partners on Sunday.
Just wanted y'all to know what was up!
xo
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Hot Alpha Female and Rejection First Hand! Preview
Ok so a lot of you guys email me asking me how you can overcome rejection.I've made video posts, blog entries and talked myself black and blue about how to overcome it.
Recently I just had an experience which put me back in line with that fear. And really allowed me to empathize and relate with you guys more.
In fact. I spend the last 3 days dealing with rejection severely. And it made me remember how gripping that fear was.
Because here is the thing, rejection is something that we are not only going to experience when it comes to the dating arena, its related to every other part of your life.
Business, family, career, social .... you name it ... fear of rejection is hidden in there somewhere.
Life is all about figuring out what you want and then developing to courage to go out and get it!
So in the next blog post coming out on Monday, I'm going to share with you, how I did have to approach and get rejected to many strangers, hot strangers might I add ... and how in the end I was able to overcome this approach anxiety and reach my desired outcome.
Stay tuned for Monday guys!
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Ali Larter is “Obsessed”
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One look at the trailers for the new movie "Obsessed," starring Ali Larter as an office siren turned psycho stalker, and it's pretty clear the title is accurate. But the real-life Larter also was obsessed in the best kind of way -- she wanted her character's look to be absolutely perfect, right down to her underwear, says costume designer Maya Lieberman.
In one of the movie's hotter scenes, Larter's Lisa Sheridan surprises the object of her desire, played by Idris Elba, with the old nothing-but-silk-and-lace under the coat trick. Lieberman says Larter came up with the idea for the vintage inspired ensemble herself.
"The lingerie was 100% Ali's idea," Lieberman said. "She wanted to avoid anything stripper inspired because she felt strongly that her character would pick something high fashion and sophisticated."
Lieberman used two pieces from different sets and dyed them to match.
The final look? Classy, sexy and surprisingly demure. A nice change, no doubt, for an actress who first made headlines wearing nothing but a whipped cream bikini in 1999's "Varsity Blues."
Feeling fashion obsessed yourself? Head over to BlackVoices to enter their "Obsessed" sweepstakes. Grand prize is a a $1,375 Hermes "Garden Party" tote and a $1,000 spa package. Can you get any more obsession worthy?
And after the jump, more on how Lieberman created Larter's look and that of Beyoncé Knowles, who plays the woman wronged.
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Guest Beauty Blogger Wednesdays – Makeup for Life on Make Up For Ever
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This week's Guest Beauty Blogger, Makeup For Life, dishes on a hot new product from Make Up For Ever.
Thanks to the recent LA Makeup Show, I have discovered Make Up For Ever's 12 Flash Color Case ($95). This cute palette contains 12 vibrant cream-based colors that can be used on the eyes, cheeks and lips and is sworn by all the pros in the industry (celebrity makeup artist Sharon Gault also used this on singer Keri Hilson for her music videos).
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BOYLE WATCH 2009 – Susan Boyle Gets Plucked!
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You really hoped it wouldn't happen.
But in the end, after 100 million Youtube views, Hollywood has won: SUSAN BOYLE HAS GOTTEN A BROW MAKEOVER.
On the left you'll see her new brows, in a picture of the Scottish crooner that was snapped today. On the right, our last glimpse of Boyle's brows in their natural state (never forget!), taken yesterday.
Though she got the makeover in Britain, looks like she followed the advice Hollywood brow guru Anastasia Soare gave her last week on this blog: "Because of her brows she has a very masculine look," said Soare, who was schooled in architecture in her native Romania. "They're too high on top, and too low at the bottom." She recommended taking a few layers off the top and bottom to thin out the brows, then creating an arch just left of center give them shape.
The Boyle Brow Backlash has already begun, as blogs and angry fans blame Simon Cowell for morphing Boyle's school marmish charm into another plastic product of the Hollywood machine.
Gotta say (and please don't stone me), I like it. It shows what the power of a good pluck can do you to bring out the structure of your face. But what do you think?
Do Boyle's new brows wow, or do you want her old arches back, now?
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Natural Beauty to Feed Your Earth Day Guilt
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When I was in school, we marked Earth Day by getting down and dirty at the local pond, where we pulled out nearly everything short of a rubber boot.
Today, I buy stuff.
Sometimes it's for a noble cause: the best beauty companies are using their mega-profits to help protect and prettify our planet. And other times, I simply find that naturally based products completely sweep the floor with their more conventional (and more synthetic) peers.
So whether you plan to celebrate today by planting trees, cleaning streams, or simply surfing green sites on the Internet, here are some of the best Earth-friendly beauty products to get you started.
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Anya Hindmarch for Earth Day
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Everyone remembers Anya Hindmarch's I'm Not a Plastic Bag eco-tote that became a highly coveted item after it was spotted on the arms of Keira Knightley, Reese Witherspoon and Jessica Biel, among others. Welcome the second coming of Hindmarch's sustainable design, a new canvas seasonal tote that is chic and on sale!
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Earth Day Round-up
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The fashion industry is promoting guilt-free shopping today in honor of Earth Day. Designers really want you to reduce your eco-footprint by purchasing their various wares. (Aww, isn't that sweet?) Here's how: - Target's first eco-friendly designer collaboration, Loomstate for Target, has hit stores just in time for you to pull together your edgy, organic-cotton look for Earth Day fetes.
- Looking to add to your monogrammed luggage set? If you shop online at Louis Vuitton today, the luxury retailer will donate 15% of all purchases on their US website to The Climate Project. FYI, The Climate Project is an organization founded by Al Gore, who also helped invent the internet. (How's that for synergy?)
- Pretty Little Thing NYC is selling a globe necklace to commemorate the planet's special day. The rest of the year, the globe revolves around you ... er, your neck. A portion of the proceeds from these babies are going to The Wilderness Society.
- Did you know Donna Karan is a total natural wellness hippie? Check out this video of Donna explaining some of the techniques and benefits of holistic medicine and her new project Urban Zen.
- Keds has revamped their classic kicks for Earth Day. Not only are their Green Label shoes made of organic cotton and recycled rubber, but for each pair sold, Keds plants a tree. Friday is Arbor Day people!
- Anthopologie hooked up with Edun (the brainchild of Bono's wife Ali Hewson) for a line of Bee Tees. These 100% organic tees will bring awareness to the alarming disappearance of honeybees. All while making you look fashionable and socially-conscious, of course.
- Don't throw out your old cosmetic containers. Origins has teamed up with Gossip Girl's Kelly Rutherford to launch a cosmetics recycling program. All Origins counters (even the ones inside department stores) will accept empty cosmetic containers from any brand.
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