Bending Your Boyfriends Over!

As adult videos become more and more mainstream, it should come as no surprise women are expanding their sexual repertoire by experimenting with some of the things performers in these movies do. If your bag of carnal tricks doesn’t include “pegging” yet, rest assured this bedroom role reversing power play will soon be appearing in one of your upcoming booty calls!

Putting it bluntly, pegging refers to women engaging in anal sex with her men using a strap-on sex toy. Whew! Now that we’ve gotten that visual out the way, it’s time to discuss the awesome potential for sexually intense role play it offers for both you and him.

The term “pegging” was originally coined by sex columnist Dan Savage (a male version of Carrie Bradshaw.) An alternate term is BOB, an acronym for Bend Over Boyfriend. While it certainly isn’t everyone’s cup of latte, many women who do it express a unique feeling of power and liberation. “It’s the difference between fucking and getting fucked,” offers Andrea Nelson, a twenty-something bank manager in Miami.

Taking His Virginity

“It hurts!”
Anal sex only hurts if you’re doing it incorrectly. The majority of us carry a lot of tension in our assholes–the same way we carry stress in our shoulders. Pain results when an object is forced through tight sphincter muscles, damaging the delicate anal tissues. If anal sex ever hurts, you should stop or take the stimulation back a notch. Remember–the key to anal pleasure is relaxation and lubrication! Pain is a warning signal from our bodies that we should take seriously.

“It gives you hemorrhoids (and/or uncontrollable bowels)!”
Most people find that when they start exploring butt play, their anal health improves. All muscles benefit from the increased circulation that results from exercise and relaxation.

“It’s messy!”
Although you’re likely to encounter some poop in your anal sex career, it’s probably going to be a lot less than you imagined. Most anal play engages only the first few inches of the anus and rectum, which do not store feces. Most people find that a thorough wash in the shower does the trick for removing any surface grime.

“It means he’s gay!”
People of all genders and orientations enjoy anal play. We all have butts! Besides, it’s a myth that all gay men only have anal sex. In fact, the majority of gay men report that oral sex is their favorite sexual activity. As Playgirl magazine once wrote on this topic, the activity is gender-neutral. Attracted to a gender is the identity.  (from Babeland)

“The idea certainly didn’t appeal to me the first time the subject came up,” Andrea explains. “I thought it was gay, like he really wanted to be with a man and not me!” But (butt?) after talking it over with several of her friends, she gained a new perspective. “It was like he wanted to give himself to me, for me to pop his cherry – so to speak. And it does make me feel more empowered. I’m fucking him, he’s not fucking me!”

Ride ‘em Cowgirl!

Fatale Media offers an informational and enjoyable series of DVDs on the subject of pegging created especially for women. Bend Over Boyfriend Part 1 stars sex educators Carol Queen and Robert Morgan and takes viewers on a by step journey into pegging, providing useful tips and advice on building your confidence to approach your men about anal sex, how to find the right strapon (size matters!) and how to fuck him so it doesn’t hurt…much. Role-playing and fantasy are also explored to a degree and it asks the all important question, ‘what do women get out of this?’ The answer – when a dildo is strapped on it’s usually positioned right over your clit and you have rhythmic sensations right where it counts. There’s also a very emotional and empowering aspect to penetrating your partner. Just ask your men how the feel when they fuck you! Although vol. 1 seems more like a how-to guide than something meant to excite women about screwing their men’s asses, this doesn’t mean the DVD isn’t hot and nasty. It has plenty of action with attractive and loving couples.  It just serves as a necessary introduction to the far more explicit and delicious second DVD in the series.

Bend Over Boyfriend Part 2 once again features Dr. Carol Queen but also includes porn star Chloe. Using a news reporter interviewing customers at an adult toy store as a set-up, it has more of a traditional adult movie feel than part 1 has and features several viginettes of four couples and one very hot threesome scene where the guys definitely get theirs “in the end.”  Full of wicked anal sex from a female perspective, Bend Over Boyfriend part 2 is a must-have for any girl who is looking to expand her sensual horizons.

Power Shopping!

There is simply no better way to introduce your men to the world of male penetration than with this perfect package. Start with the Bend Over Boyfriend DVDs, an entertaining, informative, and arousing tutorial series that will not just tell you what you need to know, but will also SHOW you. Next up is the Bend Over Beginner Kit. With its two slim silicone dildos and its velvety soft harness, this Kit is just the key to unlocking your boyfriend’s back door and letting you both in on a whole new world of pleasure.

About the author: Lauren Michelle

Originally from Montreal where she covered local night life for an alternative magazine, Lauren is now a communications major at a Southeastern university writing for the student newspaper.