My boyfriend had to work that night, so he couldn't join us. He knew most of the Zach story. He was so confident, my boyfriend. It would never have crossed his mind that Zach was a threat. He liked Zach, we'd all gone out together quite a bit, so it was not even an issue when I told him I was meeting Zach for a Bon Voyage drink in the village. He just said, "Have fun."

Oh Zach, my sculpted college swim team star! Blond buzz cut, all shoulders - a breast stroker no less - and that washboard stomach, the object of all my college dreams.

One particularly hazy evening during my junior year, the idea had struck me. Hit me between the eyes like the last gulp of a perfect gin and tonic - specifically the one in my hand.

"I'll join the swim team to meet him," I slurred to my roommate, Sandy.

"You're either joking or drunk. I can't tell which! Must be drunk," she replied.

"I can swim," I reasoned. "It's possible. I lifeguard every summer. It's worth a try."

"They get up at 5:30 in the morning, who could stand living with you?"
I extended my empty glass in her general direction and smiled coyly. "You, of course."

"No way. You know how I feel about alarm clocks." I think she said the same thing the following year, every morning I dragged myself to practice. That and, "I'm gonna kill you." But I got to watch Zach hang upside down doing vertical sit ups off of the chin up bar, his shirt flipping up so I could see the line of hair on his stomach above his shorts. We became best friends, but he never made a move.

Tonight, I sat in a trendy village eatery, waiting for him at the bar, a gin and tonic in front of me. The ice was melting. I felt a hand on the back of my neck. His hand. It was warm, and I turned to look into those blue eyes. "Hey, you look nice, you got a date?" he said with a smile.

"Yup," I said, "meeting my best friend."

"He's a lucky guy." Zach slid into the seat next to me.

I ordered another drink when he got his beer. He talked about Africa and the Peace Corps, while I watched his hands. His sleeves were rolled up and his forearms tanned and muscled. The first few buttons of his shirt were undone. I watched his collar bone peeking out at me as each round of drinks arrived. That's when it happened. I reached into his shirt and just put my hand on his chest. I guess he stopped talking because I realized it was very quiet. For a moment I just couldn't say anything, it was hard to breathe.

He reached his hand to my chin and raised my face to his, looking into my eyes. "Why didn't we?" I whispered. He sighed, but didn't let go of me.

"Because it scared the shit out of me and I didn't want to fuck it up." My face was close to his. I fingered his nipple and he closed his eyes.

There was no hesitation, no boyfriend, no right or wrong - just me and Zach. I kissed him and found his tongue waiting for mine, warm and wet.

We paid the check quickly and he took my hand as we left.

Somewhere on Barrow street I found myself leaning against a railing with my arms around his waist, his tongue in my mouth and his hands on my ass. "I've wanted this for so long," I said. He smiled as he bit my lip. "I know."

It must have been 3 a.m. and the streets were deserted. I came up for air long enough to notice the railing we were leaning on led down to a basement apartment.

"Give me your wallet," I demanded. He looked confused, but handed me a worn black billfold. I opened it. "You always were a boy scout," I giggled, pulling out a condom. "Always prepared." We hurried down the stairs. His shirt was half open as he sat on a step. I unbuckled his belt and his jeans. He pulled me to him saying, "I want your mouth." Then my tongue was wrapped with his as he fumbled with the buttons on my blouse.

I pushed down his jeans. Unimpeded by underwear, his cock sprang from his Levi's, hard and thick. He opened my push-up bra and immediately started to suck on my nipples as I pulled my skirt up around my waist. "What if somebody's home?" he said, pointing to the curtained window right next to us. "Then they're gonna see me fuck you," I whispered, smoothing on the condom.

I straddled him as his hands gripped my ass. The top of his cock pressed against my clit. His mouth was open, hungry for my tongue. There was a suspended moment, like slow motion. I lowered myself onto his rod and swallowed him whole. He felt so thick inside me. "You're so wet," he purred in my ear.

"I'm not wet," I said. "I'm dripping." I moved up and down as he moaned softly. Our rhythm took on a life of its own, as he spread my ass with every thrust. It made me crazy. "I'm so close. Oh, fuck me, fuck me!" I cried, waking everyone on Barrow street.

"I can't get enough of you," he murmured. "Don't stop. Don't ever stop. I want to fuck you forever. Come for me, baby. I want you to come for me."

My orgasm hit me like a tidal wave, breaking over me again and again. He grabbed me and pushed deeper into me until it was too much for him and he came with a shudder. We held onto each other so tightly I couldn't tell where I stopped and he began. He looked into my eyes and held onto my hips as he pressed his cock deeper into me, burying his face in my tits, licking and kissing them.

Later, when he put me in the cab, I could find no words. He took my face in his hands and kissed me softly for a long moment. "I'll miss you," I managed, brushing a tear away casually like it wasn't really there at all. I got into the cab. He took my hand through the open window. "No you won't. I'll be with you. This night will be with you." He let go of my hand and the cab sped off.

~Vanessa, Charleston

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1. The Perfect Score: Being an Ethical Slut

Monogamy is not for everyone—at least, not all the time. And though many people equate monogamy with morality and sluttiness with depravity, I suggest that this connection is a fallacy. In other words, you can be both moral and a slut. You can kiss, bang, boff, screw, sixty-nine, frottage, grope, lick, suck, and otherwise fuck as many men as you want and still act ethically. Here’s how.

Defining the Ethical Slut

As Ernest Hemingway famously said, “What is moral is what you feel good after and what is immoral is what you feel bad after.” So ask yourself, how do you want to wake up in the morning? If the answer is “finely fucked and feeling damn fine about it,” then you’re ready to be an ethical slut. You’re ready to feel good after, and why shouldn’t you? You just need to figure out how to negotiate the rocky terrain of polyamorous sex.

A slut may fuck anything that moves, but an ethical slut puts in a call the next day. An ethical slut is a woman who has sex to please both herself and her partners, and she’s a woman who takes responsibility for her actions. At her core, she is a woman with enough respect for the men in her life (and enough respect for herself) to be honest to everyone.

Be Straight Up

Lying may seem like the path of least resistance, but it will bite you in the ass. Not only do you have to keep your lies straight—which takes a tremendous toll on a girl who’s trying to remember several names and numbers—but inevitably you will find yourself in a headfirst collision with the truth. It’s just a matter of time.

The most ethical slut I ever knew was a friend of mine named Alyson. Tall, dark, and gorgeous, Alyson had the improbable good looks of a Victoria Secrets model. She could have just about any guy she bothered to check out, and she basically did. The great thing about Alyson was this: She made no bones about telling each guy that she wasn’t looking for an exclusive relationship, and that she saw several men concurrently. She didn’t apologize for her lifestyle; she was conscientious, straightforward, and caring. She never broke dates without plenty of lead time, and always answered the phone the day after when he latest conquest invariably called her. She was never in doubt about the status of her relationships. She was the consummate ethical slut.

Take a cue from Alyson. If you know you’re just looking for sex without strings, then be direct and up front.

Pleasure Principle

Sex is a two-way street, my friend (unless you’re really lucky and make it a three- or more-way). Remember this: You’re only fucking over yourself if you don’t make fucking fun for him. It isn't difficult to figure out each man’s buttons and the order in which they need to be pushed, so you need to learn how to ask him what feels good and what doesn’t—and how to be flexible enough to change things up. But don't neglect your own pleasure. Insist that he do the things you love!

Know Your Motivation

Some sluts are whorish because they’ve been burned and can’t handle emotional ties. Some have a fear of commitment. Others get a thrill from the unknown. Most, however, have some combination of the three. You owe it to yourself—as well as to your fuck friends—to figure out why you’re doing the man you’re doing, because not all motivations are healthy ones.

I’ve known women who take their anger out on men by sleeping with anything that moves, or are kind of addicted to the first blush of love and the heady pheromone rush that goes along with it. Still others take brutal pleasure in the head game of making some guy fall in love with them, then heartlessly dumping him. Yes, that can be fun and a power rush, but karma is a bitch! Remember that.

It’s far more courageous to be noble than it is to drag some unknowing guy into your own cruel motivations. Know yourself. If you do, you can act accordingly. You can make better choices. If you are ethical, you don’t always get what you want, but if you try, you just might find you get what you need.

By Chelsea Summers. In accordance with Title 17 U.S.C. Section 107, this material is distributed without profit to those who have expressed a prior interest in receiving the included information for research and educational purposes. Scandalous! has no affiliation whatsoever with the originator of this article nor is Scandalous! endorsed or sponsored by the originator.

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1. Your First Affair
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If you are a Scandalous Woman, then you are simply rejoicing in your power and control and the fun of what you have done. You still love your man, and having sex with someone else doesn't decrease that one bit. In fact, if you are a Scandalous Woman, having sex with the other man or men is part of your expression of love for your man, paradoxical as it might sound. That is the exhilaration of being a Scandalous Woman.

Scandalous Women is for the woman who has felt and followed the instinct to cheat on her man, to be an adulteress, to be promiscuous. You may, however, still have internal conflicts and questions: "Is this right, what I have done ? What can I do to make it better ? Will this drive go away now, or will I want to do this more and more ? How can I keep my relationship with my husband, and keep it healthy and strong ? And what the hell is this instinct in me that makes this soooo delicious ?" The biggest question of all: "Have I done the right thing?" What will the consequences be of what you have done? Not so much the thrill of the moment, but the impact on the rest of your universe.

You may have some need of judgment, and at the same time, be very much opposed to being judged. You may need the judgment to help you work through the right and wrong of what you have done, how you feel about yourself. You may feel lonely, and feel a need to talk about it with a friend. But you may not be able to talk with your friends about what you have done, because you need to keep it secret to protect yourself or your husband or both. This is a normal need, to be judged by someone. The need to confess and be judged is powerful, witness by the role of confession and judgment in religions.

One of the best ways to confess and be judged and just talk your mind is through the anonymity of the internet. At Scandalous Women you can find many women who have lived through exactly what you are living through, and found the answers they need to not just accept their polyandry, but to revel in it. You may or may not agree with the lifestyle or philosophy, but it is sure to be an interesting experience.

Now we're ready for the definition. What is a Scandalous Woman? She is a highly self-confident woman who enjoys sexual interaction with men other than her husband/boyfriend, from flirting to fucking. She expects her man to tolerate it, whether he knows about it or not; and if he does know about it, support her.

Do you relate to everything about the Scandalous Woman, except for that f---ing word ? Does a Scandalous Woman have to have sex with someone outside her couple to qualify ? Of course, a Scandalous Woman does whatever the hell she wants to. She's never going to screw a guy because she's supposed to. She makes up her own rules, and the rules for her mate to follow can be as different as she wants. She changes them when she wants to. Amazingly, this is one concept that men do not have any problem understanding or (most of the time) accepting. The rules concept is to the feminine psyche what nice legs are to her body: major turn-on. Sexy.

A big part of the Scandalous Woman is that she not only accepts committing scandalous acts, but she enjoys it. Probably the sweetest scandalous act is to cuckold your husband, with or without his knowledge. Does she have to screw another man to consider herself scandalous ? No. Does she need to consider herself free enough to seduce a man even though she's married or in a committed relationship? Yes. Absolutely yes.

It's the attitude that is precious, no question about it. If you feel that you could not have extramarital sex while expecting your husband to continue to be faithful to you, then no, you are not Scandalous Woman material. You still are welcome, of course, to hang out with us. Maybe you support the rights of other women to be Scandalous. Then surely, join in, learn about the signs and symbols, wear some of the insignias that identify us to one another. Maybe you are just curious. But, given time, you may still give in to the "dark side!"

Scandalous Women love not just the physical side of being promiscuous. The psychological side is as sweet, or maybe sweeter. Just flirting with a man, behind your husband's back or right in front of him, is delicious.

Are there risks and problems associated with cuckolding your man ? Sure. There are major potential hazards. Some of the hazards are usually exaggerated and considered inescapable. For instance, and this is the biggest potential hazard of all, could this scandalous behavior ruin an otherwise good relationship between the Scandalous Woman and her man ? It can happen. The SW community shares thoughts and experiences on this topic. The important thing to keep in mind is that this does not have to be the result.

The SW does not have to love her man less just because she has bedded someone else. She is too strong, too powerful, too wise to let that happen. At least, that is the ideal. Some SW will make a point of not seeing the same interloper more than once, to make sure that he doesn't get attached to her, and to make sure she doesn't fall in love with the interloper. And - oops! - accidents will always happen! But it remains to be seen if divorces are more common or less common where a Scandalous Woman is involved. Marriages break up all the time, and often because of one of the couple falling in love outside the marriage. There are attractions to other people, some with sexual overtones. The socially accepted way to deal with these is to deny that they exist.

To tell or not to tell - that is the question. Whether it's nobler is not really the issue. It's a good idea to think about what your partner really really wants. It's not a bad idea to ask him, preferably before you get married: "If I have sex with someone else, do you want to know, or not ?" Whatever the answer, it can be modified, of course.

More downsides ? A big one is if you have children, you do not want to become a subject of the town grapevine. Again, here some Scandalous Women have a rule of thumb, to always have their affairs out of town, if it's a matter of physical intimacy, even if it's just kissing. If you are concerned about your husband's reputation in your home town or at work, then similar precautions are called for. Some SWs have reported that their husband performs better at work if the word gets out that he is cuckolded, but it's generally considered not a good idea to bring this private aspect of couples' lives to work.

Sexually transmitted diseases, or STDs - MAJOR potential danger! Now, it could be that female promiscuity actually increases the safety of the couple. If a man knows that his wife is cuckolding him in the classic way described here, then he is not going to be promiscuous himself. The woman then has full control over the possibilities and preventions for STDs. The SW has to absolutely insist on condoms worn by her casual partners, and should moreover insist on his using condoms that she supplies. (If a man brings his own condom, are you going to check the expiration date and whether it's an FDA-approved condom?)

Pregnancy is an issue also, and the condom should be ample protection. However, oral contraceptives are recommended as well. And you know what ? Psychologically, pregnancy is at the root of the difficulties in having affairs. It's a biological trait that has evolved through natural selection, that a man works to be sure that he is the one to make his wife pregnant, that his own genes are the ones inherited. Obviously, in an age where birth control is routine, these psychological traits are outdated and way less relevant.

Other downsides? Hmm, none seem to come to mind. Your husband might not accept your independence and freedom if you let him know? Sure, that's possible. But not if he's introduced and trained correctly. It's said that all men are voyeurs. The same excitement that grips men when two lesbians are making out can kick in when he thinks about his wife with another man.

Conclusion

You had your affair, and now you need to look at your life from the very beginning, from a new perspective. Don't feel guilty, don't regret it -- it's your right as a Woman! Savor and enjoy every aspect of your tryst. When you think about how to integrate that into your life, don't feel apologetic to your husband. He may not realize it, but you have done something more honest, by admitting your attraction to men other than him. You have made your own experiences richer, and you will be a more interesting partner for it. It's far worse to live your life stymied, suffocated, deprived of experiences then find yourself bitter and reproachful toward him when you are much older, when it's too late.

Go back home to your husband and love him. Love him intensely. Demand his love - his unconditional love - for you. If life hands you a lemon, go get yourself some coconut milk and some rum and make yourself a pina colada! And this joy you can share with your husband. There is more to learn at Scandalous Women - a LOT more! We promise you - if this is a new way of thinking for you, you have only scratched the surface. There is a whole new cosmos waiting for you !

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2. *Flings
3. She’s Gotta Have It!

Sometimes a woman encounters a man she simply has to have, a man so irresistable - and perhaps so titilltingly wrong - that all her sane reasoning goes right out the bedroom window...She may adore her hubby or boyfriend, yet start an affair with someone who offers more of the steamy, satisfying sex she craves. Sometimes the stud muffin in question is so humpable and well-hung that a woman knows the relationship is just about good sex.

They say variety is the spice of life! But when cheating, you usually have to keep your wanderlust a secret. You must create a line between “partner A” (the man in your life) and “partner B” (the man, or men, you have on the side). This means never allowing the guy you are messing around with to permeate your life completely. You should never allow him into your home or even near your residence. If possible keep as much personal information, well, personal. Remember that you don’t really know “person B” and if and when you decide to stop communicating with him he may try to retaliate. So avoid all super personal details like where your partner works, your address, etc.

Seriously, if God had meant for Women to be with only one man at a time, he wouldn't have made men want us so damn much, so here is how to cheat and never ever get caught by your husband or boyfriend!

1. Never do it in your home town unless you know the places and back roads really well. When traveling you know that you will shower before your husband or boyfriend smells you, and if your clothes have a funny cologne smell, say it was the soap from the hotel, or some other similar story.

2. Try to avoid cheating with the same guy too often and, if you can, give him NO WAY to contact you!. Why? Unless you want the relationship with your husband or boyfriend to end, spending too much time with someone else may lead to stronger feelings for the guy on the side. Messy! And remember how hard it was to get rid of guys you didn't want to see again when you were single? Try explaining why you're being harassed to your husband! All guys will eventually want to "hike their leg" on you!

3. Try not to vary your schedule alot. Using excuses like "working late" or "going in early" too much will arouse suspicion. Ditto for using new outside activities such as gym, jogging, etc., as ways to hook up with him. The best times will be when you know your husband/boyfriend is occupied somewhere else.

4. NEVER call from a traceable phone. Not from home, not from work, not from a hotel room. Not from your cell phone. Absolutely never. Use a pre-paid calling card or use change at a phone booth.

5. Act normal! A sudden interest in improving your appearance may raise a red flag with a suspicious guy!

6. Don't personally discuss this with anyone you can't trust!

7. Try to keep an overnight bag hidden in your car - like under the spare tire compartment or in a lockable glove compartment. In it have extra make-up, toothpaste and brush, perfume, condoms, etc. DO NOT bring this bag into your house! it will look as if you're planning a trip! (And try explaining condoms to your man when you're on the pill!)

8. Leave no physical evidence. Keep very close track of condom wrappers, unused condoms, etc.

9. Never use your credit card for anything.

10. If you get a hotel room, pay cash.

11. And most of all...whether you are having much sex with your man or not, treat him well. No, make that extremely well!

Computer Usage:

Email

Scandalous! wants to make special point about computers. More people get busted for extra curricular sex from evidence on their computer than any other way. Your computer can be your worst enemy if you employ it to arrange your flingd. Certain "files" and "folders" on your hard drive contain a history of every move you make! How do you "cover your ass" while trying to "get some ass?" Read on!

First and foremost, you need your own private and anonymous e-mail address. A shared one with your man just won't do! What if he intercepts a message from your "stud on the side?" There are countless free e-mail services available - Yahoo Mail and Gmail just to name three.

Deleting Browser History

For Internet Explorer 5 and 6, you can follow these directions to clear out temporary files and delete cookies.

1) Open Internet Explorer and click on Tools
2) Click on Internet Options
3) On the General Tab, in the middle of the screen, click on Delete Files
4) You may also want to check the box "Delete all offline content"
5) Click on OK and wait for the hourglass icon to stop after it deletes the temporary internet files
6) You can now click on Delete Cookies and click OK to delete cookies that websites have placed on your hard drive.

To clear the Internet History in IE 5 and 6:

1) Open Internet Explorer and click on Tools
2) Click on Internet Options
3) On the General Tab, in the middle of the screen, click on Clear History
4) Click OK

Firefox 1 (NOT /Netscape)

Click on Tools and then Options, then click on Privacy. Click on the Clear button next to History; Saved Form Information; Cookies and Cache.

Firefox 2 and 3

Click on Tools and then Options, then click on Privacy. At private data select settings, ensure that all boxes have been selected and then click on Clear Now

Netscape 7

Click on the Edit menu and select Preferences. In the left pane, expand History then in the right area click Clear History. Next, expand Privacy and Security and select Cookies then on the button Manage Stored Cookies and in the new dialog box click Remove All Cookies. Then repeat similar for Forms and the Manage Stored Form Data button and the same for Passwords and the Manage Stored Passwords button. Aditionally, you may Manage Forms, Cookies and Passwords individually from the Tools menu - but not the temporary page Cache files.

Opera

Click on Tools and then Preferences. Click on the Advanced tab and then the History section on the left-hand side. Click the Clear button to the right of Addresses and the Empty Now button to the right of Disk cache. Opera does not have an easy wasy to clear all Cookies.

Safari (often used on Apple Macs)

Resetting Safari clears the history, empties the cache, clears the Downloads window, and removes all cookies. It also removes any saved user names and passwords or other AutoFill data and clears Google/Yahoo search entries. To do this go to the Safari menu at top left hand screen. Choose Reset Safari, and click Reset.

Deleting your browsing history:

Internet browsers also keep a record of all the web pages you visit. This is known as a 'history'. To delete history for Internet Explorer and Netscape/Firefox hold down the Ctrl key on the keyboard, then press the H key (Crtl, Alt and H for Opera). Find any entries that are revealing of your activities, right click and choose Delete. For Safari, select History at top of the screen and choose "Clear History"

To clean up other temporary files on your computer in Windows 98 or higher:

1) Click Start, Programs (or All Programs), Accessories, System Tools, Disk Cleanup
2) Choose the correct drive usually C:\
3) Check the boxes in the list and delete the files

You should do this each time your surf for pages that might reveal your sexual intentions if you need to keep them secret.

Privacy

But wait! What about the history you've collected yourself in the form of saved e-mails, pictures, stories, neat little "how to's" like this one, etc.? You don't want to delete them. One option is to put them all on a floppy disk or CD. But then you'd have to keep up with it!

If you own your computer, you're trying to conceal sexy flings from a boyfriend, and he only uses your computer occasionally, here are a few great alternatives to storing files on media or deleting them:

Encrypt Files is free encryption desktop computer software. It is a lightweight but powerful program that will allow you to encrypt your files and folders and password protect them. Make sure to remember your password or you won't able to decrypt files to a "normal", readable state. Pretty neat, huh? It does have a moderate learning curve and you can download it here!

Another program like the one above is TrueCrypt, a free open-source disk encryption program that locks up your private files and folders and password protects them. it will even "hide" these folders from others. Snag it here.

There are ways, of course, to store the files in question on the internet. You can then download them from any computer with internet access! One way is to store them in special folders within your web-based e-mail. An online alternative to this is the handful of "internet hard drives" out there. These allow you to upload files and store them. You can acess them with a username and password. Check out A-Drive, Freedrive, and Driveway!

How about all of those bookmarks/Favorites you've collected to sexy sites like this one? ScandalousWomen to the rescue! Here is a cool site that lets you keep all of your bookmarks/favorites online and away from hubby or boyfriend's eyes - and you can access them from anywhere! Its called MyBookmarks!

Should you have any further suggestions on keeping you computer activities private, don't hesitate to contact us!

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